Hopeful Thinking

I have always maintained a philosophy that it’s better to trust people and risk betrayal, than it is to assume betrayal and risk trust.  In the course of my life, my adventurous sensibility, now somewhat dampened as I’ve gotten older, has lead me into many, many situations that would typically be deemed dangerous. Yet I invariably felt safe. I have definitely hobnobbed with criminals, taken risks with people who might not necessarily have had my best interests in mind, taken candy from strangers, and let people suffering from addiction sleep in my home.  It’s true there have been two or three occasions over the years where my trust was misplaced. I once had to replace an apartment full of electronics, and another houseguest once required an unceremonious dumping in the driveway for stealing. There may have been one or two others I’m not remembering. Because I don’t really dwell on them. What I tend to dwell on, is the fact that on so many occasions, people who were decidedly u...

One of my favorite lessons in acting school was about the benefit of taking risks. Those risks were specifically about the skill of acting and expressing the truth of a character, but all actor training focuses entirely around emulating the inner workings of human feelings and behavior. So it becomes quite a good test kitchen for understanding it.  Which also means facing the very human anxiety of taking those risks. Describing it as a fear of failure is somewhat oversimplified. Because often we are just as equally afraid of success and the implications of succeeding. Ironic, isn’t it? We most comfortably prefer something called homeostasis, meaning something which remains in a constant state, unchanging. It feels safe and familiar. But it is also stagnant. And we are not built for stagnancy. Life is much like a successful gene pool. It requires diversity of experience. Curveballs. Adversity. And especially failure. It requires a steady stream of new input to engage with. Thinking ...

What does it mean to celebrate? The origins of the word celebrate are actually unknown; something I’ve rarely encountered in my fascination with word history. It suggests that, rather than being assembled from existing word forms with known meanings, the term arose into existence as part of our origin languages in times before history.  All of its oldest known appearances make note that it is universally used to describe a large group of people assembling for the purpose of honor and joy.  To me, this is an indication of our inherent communal nature as human beings. To celebrate an event, an accomplishment, or a milestone together as a group is a tradition of our species. But why? What does it do for us? Science shows that celebrations are particularly important for our emotional and societal health. They make us feel less alone. They remind us that while we are each individuals, we are at one with something magnificently larger than ourselves. This awareness is something we d...

After yet another mass shooting, I continue to wonder about the solution. I believe there must be one. Some societal equation we have yet to decipher. Some question we’ve forgotten to ask. It is my spirituality toward which I turn when asking such vastly existential questions as this. That’s why it’s so often the advice to throw love at a situation we don’t understand or haven’t yet solved in order to decide how to best handle it. This means the spiritual answer to the gun problem must be love. But guns are such a loaded topic, so full of grief and misery and loss. Politically volatile, goading us towards combustion, it’s hard to even have a reasonable conversation about it, much less throw love at it. Yet, as far as the application of spiritual principles go, we must remember that guns are no different than any enemy. They are something that must be loved in order to be transformed. How does one love a gun when they are perceived to be the enemy? Psychologically, forgiveness of the gu...

When we look at the words and actions of Jesus, there’s a dharmic pattern of teaching that emerges with six different categories. Through his parables and his behavior, Jesus of Nazareth taught life practices on forgiveness, compassion, hospitality, nonresistance, empowerment, and gratitude.  Here’s the crux of it: All the things that he spoke about, demonstrated, or explained in parable form, all of these teachings are about relationship. How we interact with other people. How we treat our enemies. How we diffuse and de-escalate a tense or dangerous situation. How we treat our sick, widowed, orphaned, and imprisoned. How to raise one another up.  Why? If God had devised a way to get us these teachings through the person of Jesus; and not just Jesus, by the way, because there have been many teachers and prophets beginning about 2,500 years ago who have taught humanity these things, why are these teachings so important? What is their purpose? I like to think it’s because we nee...

Despite my ironic lack of interest in mathematics itself, I am riveted by the subject of numbers. I suppose, if I had to describe my relationship with them in words, the closest I could come would be “intercom with God.” Numbers to me have meaning and symbolism, and probably even vibration. Numbers are concrete solid things that have the capacity to describe entirely fluid and conceptual ideas. There are very few things in our world that can sit astride those two realities.  Cultures through history have devised myriad layers of value that correspond with all sorts of numbers, whether single digit or multiple. These various disciplines are referred to as numerology. Some numerological traditions are incredibly complex, requiring various forms of mathematics. Some are elegant and simple. I find simple numerology to be a comforting little practice. There are many variations to even the simplest forms of it, culture to culture. And numbers mean different things to different people eve...

What is the right side of history? What’s on it now? Who is on it? There are a lot of opinions out there about what constitutes the right and wrong side of history. Many conclude that since history is written by the victors, the victors are those who decide where the line between right and wrong is drawn.  An argument also exists out there that what we consider morally correct today will not necessarily be so in the future. That is true. However, from this, they conclude that what defines the right or wrong side of history is also vulnerable to that fact. And that’s where they’re wrong. Because history decides for itself which side is right or wrong. The victors do not write that aspect of it. History notes its own trends. So, how then does history trend? What things tend to occur repeatedly despite enormous efforts on the part of forces like power and money to stop them? The answer is: Human dignity and the right to self-determination.  Despite the way it often appears to the...